Friday, November 27, 2009

Why does it take misery, discomfort & pain in order to successfully achieve desired outcomes?

EX-1: Many African American women get their hair chemically relaxed. Sure, the straight style looks nice, but it BURNS like hell when in the process of getting your hair fixed up all pretty!



EX-2: You want to go to college %26amp; become a successful pediatrician. But you have to work your butt off, studying EVERY day for 8-12 yrs., with your brain hurting from being overworked, just to become that SUCCESSFUL pediatrician that you dreamed of. EX-3: You fill out job applications until your hand hurts, walk in those high heels until your feet are blistery %26amp; filled with corns, calluses, %26amp; bunions %26amp; drive around, wasting a lot of gas %26amp; mileage, just to keep trying %26amp; trying to do your best in an interview, but you have to accept a lot of rejection.



***Do you think that failures make a person more driven to become successes-with people who don't quit easily?



Why does it take misery, discomfort %26amp; pain in order to successfully achieve desired outcomes?

WOW how true, never thought about it quite that much. You sound like you have really high goals and are very ambitious. I think that knock backs do make you stronger in the end. Life is so full of rejections and hardships. Look for the positives though. I bet you were to good for the jobs that you got knocked back on. Keep trying I say. Eventually life will give you a break. Dont settle for second best. You deserve the BEST!!!



About example one: Suffer to be beautiful, isnt that the saying.... Once upon a time i believed this but now I am happy with who i am and how i look. Luckily I can be, how ignorant does that sound!!! No really im 35 and always get comments about looking 25. Dont wear heaps of makeup.... keep it natural, including the hair!!! But we all do it... WE all go to extremes at one stage in our lives...



Never quit!!!! You will be successful even if its only within yourself. I could go on forever about this... To be honest I should take some of my own advice!!!



Why does it take misery, discomfort %26amp; pain in order to successfully achieve desired outcomes?

Yes, most probably that was it. If you look around for all the people who were deemed successful in life, you'll find that usually during their early years, they faced many hardships enough to drag down a soul, but they persisted and eventually win in achieving. It goes to show that winners never quit, and quitters never win.



Why does it take misery, discomfort %26amp; pain in order to successfully achieve desired outcomes?

we need pain and failure in order to truly know success



people who face great limitations, either struggle under there weight, or sour above. its all a matter of will and determination



Why does it take misery, discomfort %26amp; pain in order to successfully achieve desired outcomes?

The soil needs to be ploughed for fertility.



The tree needs to be pruned to yield good harvest.



The animal needs to overcome lots of tests to evoluate.



The training of man, the noble being, needs not only the physical hardship, but also mental and spiritual sufferings.



That is the divine law of creation.



Just see, the greatest men are those who have suffered the most.



So, see more with your own eyes, and think more with your own mind.



GU-UN



Why does it take misery, discomfort %26amp; pain in order to successfully achieve desired outcomes?

You have one of many outlooks that drive people... here's another, but not what you would think... so look for the lesson!



The Army Son



Author Unknown



The Creightons were very proud of their son, Frank. When he went to college,



naturally they missed him; but he wrote and they looked forward to his letters



and saw him on weekends. Then Frank was drafted into the army.



After he had been in the army about five months, he received his call



to go to Vietnam. Of course, the parents' anxiety for his first letter



was greater than ever before. And every week they heard from him and



were thankful for his well-being. Then one week went by without a letter



~ two weeks ~ and finally three. At the end of the third week a telegram



came, saying, "We regret to inform you that you son has been missing for three



weeks and is presumed to have been killed in action while fighting for his country."



The parents were shocked and grieved. They tried to accept the situation



and go on living, but it was tragically lonesome without Frank.



About three weeks later, however, the phone rang. When Mrs. Creighton answered



it, a voice on the other end said, "Mother, it's Frank. they found me, and



I'm going to be all right. I'm in the United States and I'm coming home soon."



Mrs. Creighton was overjoyed, with tears running down her cheeks she



sobbed, "Oh, that's wonderful! That's just wonderful, Frank."



There was silence for a moment, and then Frank said, "Mother I want to



ask you something that is important to me. While I've been here, I've



met a lot of wonderful people and I've really become close friends



with some. There is one fellow I would like to bring home with me to



meet you and Dad. And I would like to know if it would be all right



if he could stay and live with us, because he has no place to go."



His mother assured him it would be all right.



Then Frank said, "You see, he wasn't as lucky as some; he was injured



in battle. He was hit by a blast and his face is all disfigured. He



lost his leg, and his right hand is missing. So you see, he feels



uneasy about how others will accept him."



Frank's mother stopped to think a minute. She began to wonder how



things would work out, and what people in town would think of



someone like that. She said, "Sure Frank, you bring him home



~ for a visit ~ that is. We would love to meet him and have him



stay for a while; but about him staying with us permanently,



well, we'll have to think about that." There was silence for



a minute, and then Frank said, "Okay, Mother," and hung up.



A week went by without any word from Frank, and then a telegram arrived



"We regret to inform you that your son has taken his life.



We would like you to come and identify the body."



Their wonderful son was gone. The horror stricken parents could only



ask themselves, "Why had he done this?" When they walked into the room



to identify the body of their son, they found a young man with a



disfigured face, one leg missing, and his right hand gone.



ME!



.



Why does it take misery, discomfort %26amp; pain in order to successfully achieve desired outcomes?

There is no straightforward explanation for many things . Example 1 and examples 2 and 3 are unconnected . In ex-1 they could have easily kept away from having that fixing at such a pain. It was their conscious choice.



In the 2nd and 3rd examples. you take pains to achieve something but the results elude you.



In the eastern philosophy this aspect has been dealt with some 5000+ years ago. The crux of the teaching is this.:



You have right only to do your duty. You have no right to expect the result out of your action. . In other words , it means, you have no control over the end results which are dependent on many factors outside of you.



Once you are aware you are at peace and you do your thing to the best of your ability. period.



A step , further , explains what influences the results. It is based ona theory called Karma theory in which it is said that any action , taken any time will certainly have a reaction. The actions taken in th earlier births will follow us hither too. Proof? You tell me!



Why does it take misery, discomfort %26amp; pain in order to successfully achieve desired outcomes?

The path of pain or self-denial is just one alternative. People may also attract positive outcomes by aligning themselves subconsciously with their goals. Inner beliefs create our outcomes.



Why does it take misery, discomfort %26amp; pain in order to successfully achieve desired outcomes?

Yes, it is the pain, misery and sacrifice attached to achieving success that makes it so satisfying a provider of happiness... any success or achievement that just drops our way without due efforts or sacrifice does not give the true satisfaction because our ego demands a tinge of genuine pride and belongingness along with success for feeling really happy. It is the pain, misery and discomfort attached to making a successful achievement happen that gives it the real meaning and in the absence of that we do not feel like having achieved at all.



Why does it take misery, discomfort %26amp; pain in order to successfully achieve desired outcomes?

I think failure makes one realize how much they really want something.



Why does it take misery, discomfort %26amp; pain in order to successfully achieve desired outcomes?

There is no goal to be achieved.We are always moving towards the goal.The right path is important.Then there should be no resentment about discomfort etc.Instead of trying to be a 'successful' pediatrician , if your goal was only to help the ailing children ,you would be achieving it all the time



Why does it take misery, discomfort %26amp; pain in order to successfully achieve desired outcomes?

It is not necessary to have these misfortunes to achieve success. It's just bad luck. Some goas require only straight forward work. Some require overcoming difficult obstacles. Just depends what you're trying to do.



Why does it take misery, discomfort %26amp; pain in order to successfully achieve desired outcomes?

Of course, people think that success comes so easily in life for the most part it does not. A series of trial and error or failure before you can get where you want to be. The people who keep trying are the ones who usually succeed.

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